Mr. Attitude

Mr. Attitude: Turn it around!

Mind if I ask you a few questions? I’ll assume that because you are a bit curious, your answer is, “Yes,” so I will go ahead and ask them.

  • Have you ever opened your mouth and then put your foot directly into it?
  • Did you do something really stupid lately and now you totally regret it?
  • Do you feel like everyone thinks you’re kind of crazy?
  • Are you doubting yourself, beating yourself up, saying negative things to yourself about yourself?
  • Have family and/or friends have indicated that they think you have dug yourself a pit that just keeps getting deeper and deeper?
If your answer to any of these is “Yes” you’re probably not feeling so hot right now. But all is not lost! So, let me ask you one more question? How would you like to turn this negative situation all around?

At this point you may have had your curiosity piqued even further, and are wondering just what I am getting at here, so let me explain myself. One way I know to turn a negative situation around is to learn how to “eat  crow” effectively! Obviously I am not talking aboutliterally eating the meat of a crow, so what do I mean?

“Eating crow” is an idiom that means to display total humility, especially when shown to be wrong. For instance, one might say, “Well, it looks like I was wrong, and now I am going to be eating a lot of crow.” Just as the thought of eating crow is pretty distasteful, so it is that very often one finds the thought of having to admit a mistake pretty distasteful.

By now you may be wondering how one can learn how to do something so unpalatable, as eating crow. If you’re interested, I can recommend a good course in effective crow eating, taught to you by an expert at eating crow. This author has eaten a lot of crow a variety of times, locations, and with different parties, and is able to guide you through the finer points and the delicacies of eating crow. This course will…

  • teach you to master the skill of eating crow and enjoying every bite and morsel;
  • instruct you in how to put your pride down and totally learn the art of humility;
  • help you turn negatives into positives;
  • have people admiring you and respecting you, and believing that you are very brave and courageous;
  • cause you to be more trustworthy
After you see and hear his stories you’ll be able to see yourself eating crow too! Learn how to eat crow quickly and emphatically. Admit your mistakes, deal with the consequences of your decisions and rebuild relationships now.

Sign up today! If you know someone who needs this course have them contact this author today or buy them a ticket to his course.

Eating crow can turn your negative situations around! Taking responsibility for your life, your words, your actions… this is revolutionary!

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Mr. Attitude: Live In the Now

When we were young, we thought our life on this planet would last a long, long time. However, as we are aging and maturing we are discovering that life is so very brief and it moves by rather quickly. The memories of our early years permeate our minds with all the lessons learned and not learned, obstacles overcome, all the joys and sorrows that have contributed and often played a key role in this process we call life, and we realize just how precious life, along with time, really is.

That is why I choose, every day, to live in the moment; to live in the now! You know there’s nothing you or I can about do the past except learn from it, and all we can do about the future is prepare for it as best we can. We should not live life with regrets of the past, nor should we live life afraid of the days, weeks, months, and years ahead. We must determine to live life with “zest” while focusing completely on the here and the now. Some may say, “Easier said than done!” and that may be true, but in my humble opinion, it just takes practice to develop smart disciplines and positive habits. Be assured, living a full and abundant life is truly the result of a series of good and wise choices and decisions-not the kind of thing that happens by osmosis.

Please allow me to ask a few questions that will help you to do a little soul searching.

  • Are you living the kind of life you really desire?
  • Are you achieving the goals and desires that you have for your life?
  • What is holding you back? Fear? Insecurity? Laziness? (I know that I can relate to all three.)

Answer these questions for yourself, and determine to be an over-comer. Make the decision, today, to begin living a life that is rich, full and happy. Become the kind of person who takes life’s problems, challenges and negative issues and, with a spirit of determination, hard work, enthusiasm and a good action plan, totally flips these negatives into positive results. This strategy alone will contribute greatly to success in your current situations.

Life is much too short to waste a minute of it, so live your life as if there were no tomorrows; live in this moment of time we call now!

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Lessons From The Trees

These are two of my fruit trees–one just loaded with apples and the other one cherries. I cannot wait for picking time!

 

While I was out watering my apple, cherry, pear, plum, mulberry, and apricot trees today, I pondered many a thought. Every thought carried me back to the tree that I was watering, and something I had recently read that I wanted to share with you here today. I have no idea who the author is, or I would give credit to the author. Truly this is wisdom from the ages…

ALL I NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LIFE I LEARNED FROM TREES

  • It’s important to have roots.

  • In today’s complex world, it pays to branch out.

  • Don’t pine away over old flames.

  • If you really believe in something, don’t be afraid to go out on a limb.

  • Be flexible so you don’t break when a harsh wind blows.

  • Sometimes you have to shed your old bark in order to grow.

  • If you want to maintain accurate records, keep a log.

  • Grow where you’re planted.

  • It’s perfectly okay to be a late bloomer.

  • Avoid people who would like to cut you down.

  • Get all spruced up when you have a hot date.

  • If the party gets boring or dangerous, just leaf.

  • You can’t hide your true colors as you approach the autumn of your life.

  • It’s more important, to be honest than popular.

I don’t know about you, but I’ll never look at a tree the same way again. I love my trees and they really have taught me so much! A couple things I think I’d add to this list is that trees have taught me to relax and take time to enjoy life. What’s more, there is nothing like the trees–and in fact all of creation–to make me feel close to my Creator.

So maybe it’s time you planted a tree. I really enjoy the fruit trees we have growing in our yard, and I especially like the pie that is derived from the fruit trees I planted over the last twenty years. Mmmm! Mmmm! I can taste it already! Life is SWEET!

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Mr Attitude: Are We Having Fun Yet?

Sitting down with my color book and my color pencils or markers is a very relaxing thing for me to do. The stress just melts off of me as I fill in the lines and shapes. Tapping my creative juices really helps to settle my mind and prepares me for the next great challenge in life. Why is it that so many of us quit coloring as we move into adulthood?

Remember the joy of sharing your masterpiece with friends and family?
I do. Seeing my masterpiece stuck up on the fridge just made me feel so good as a little boy. 

Color

Color – Pixelbay

I totally value and appreciate this quote from Albert Einstein. “Creativity is intelligence having fun.” Now here is a pretty smart fellow telling us that it is an intelligent thing to have fun being creative. Wow, now that is great attitude. 

As much fun as it is to color by yourself, it’s even better to color with someone else! No matter who you choose to share the experience with – might be your spouse, a friend, your child, or grandchild – there is sure to be a natural flow of creative synergy and giggles galore. So, if you have not taken some time to color lately, let me encourage you to go to my free downloads tab here on the website and download a couple of pages for FREE. Our Attitude Color Book is coming out soon, so in the meantime go ahead and grab your markers, crayons, gel pens, or colored pencils and have some fun.

Remember life is full of color!

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Mr. Attitude: Make Their Day!

Taking the time and energy to give honest and sincere appreciation is a vital thing for us to do, though we do not always take the time or the effort to do so. Because many of us do not get a lot of encouragement ourselves, we may find it difficult to encourage others. I know this has been true for me at various times throughout my life.

One thing I have discovered when I am feeling a bit discouraged is that when I look around me, I find others who are also needing a bit of encouragement as well. That’s when I set to work, to figure out a way that I can encourage someone. This is a great time for me to practice the skill of giving honest and sincere appreciation to another by paying them a compliment.

In fact, as I have learned to do this, it has become second nature to me to compliment others. I generally go about the process of paying a sincere compliment by using a system I call the “5 E’s of Encouragement.”

I make it a daily habit to watch for what others around me are doing right and well. I take the time to EXAMINE by looking deep into the character of the people I am observing. I also listen to the good that others are saying about them, all the while looking for just the right opportunity to go to the next step, which is to EXPOSE to someone what I have discovered. My desire is to bring something out into the open that will encourage and make that person feel more appreciated.

However, it isn’t enough to just say it. I always try to convey what I have to say with EMOTION telling them how what I have observed in them makes me feel. I use words like happy, joy, appreciative, proud, delighted, inspired, confident, etc. to let the other person see and feel my sincerity.

I don’t stop there, but go on to the fourth step: EXPECTATION which is when I share with them what the benefits will be if they keep up the behavior. At the same time as I am speaking, I do something that will ENDEAR them in a way that causes them to feel respected, encouraged and appreciated. I always look the person directly in the eye, maintaining eye contact the entire time I am speaking to them. I smile too. At times, depending on who you are complimenting, it may be a pat on the back, a touch on the arm, or a tousling of the hair (such as in the case of a young child) may also be appropriate.

To illustrate my point let me tell you a story. My wife has been working extremely hard to build her new marketing and website design business, and I have noticed how effectively she juggles multiple projects and client demands, not to mention helping out in my business and running a household. Vicki has a huge mindset of quality and excellence, which often keeps her working long hours just to get the job done right. I took her aside the other night and just shared with her the things I noticed she was doing right and well. It was quite a list I shared with her, along with the evidence to back up my points. She smiled and thanked me.

I walked out of that room, feeling pretty good about being able to encourage another human being. Now, I will encourage you to use these 5 E’s with the people around you, making it your habit to give honest and sincere appreciation to others wherever you go, and your life will never be the same.

Oh, and by the way…if someone pays you a compliment, receive it by simply saying, “Thank you!”

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Mr. Attitude: Leadership Inspires

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” –John Quincy Adams

Since her high school days, this has been my youngest daughter Elie’s favorite quote. I am impressed on how well she is taking this quote and applying it in her everyday life.

Elie has been learning about leadership for many years and has had the opportunity to practice leadership over and over again with her nieces and nephews and others younger than herself. For instance, on Wednesday evenings she helps second graders at our church to memorize Bible verses. The children look up to her for guidance and direction, and she is quick to encourage them when they are having a hard time.She’s also done her fair share of babysitting, which naturally employs many leadership skills.

Elie has also gained leadership experience working with me in business. She is a great assistant to me at conferences. She often engages with people before the session begins, which puts them at ease and helps to set a positive tone for the meeting to come. People seem to immediately love Elie! In addition, she has led group activities during my training session, even though most of the time people in the groups are older than she is. Her confidence always blows me away, and I have seen her grow by leaps and bounds over the last couple of years.

Leadership is not all about being the boss, as many people think. Being a good leader involves serving others, and as John Quincy Adams understood, leaders are the people who, by their actions, “inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more.”

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Leadership – Photo from mrattitudespeaks.com

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Mr. Attitude: Grow Tall

This poem, which is attributed to a man named Douglas Malloch, is one of my favorites. Life was never meant to be easy–for trees or for people. It really is in the tough times that we grow the most.

Grow Tall - From mrattitudespeaks.com

Grow Tall – From mrattitudespeaks.com



The tree that never had a to fight

for sun and sky and air and light,

but stood out in the plain,

and always got its share of rain,

never became a forest king,

but lived and died a scrubby thing.

The man who never had to toil

to gain and farm his patch of soil, 

who never had to win his share

of sun and sky and light and air, 

never became a manly man 

but lived and died as he began.

Good timber does not grow in ease;

the stronger the wind, the stronger the trees;

the further the sky, the greater the length;

the more the storm, the more the strength;

by sun and cold, by rain and snow,

in trees and man, good timber grows.

So remember this: The tougher the goin’ – the faster the growin’!

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Mr Attitude: The Power of Seed

When was the last time you stopped to think of the power of a tiny seed? It’s hard to believe that the tree in this picture started from a tiny seed, isn’t it? And yet we know, that mighty things do in fact come from tiny seeds.

Reminds me of a time when I was a little boy. A time when my father taught me a valuable lesson on the farm–one I am sure I will always remember.

Power of Seed - Photo from mrattitudespeaks.com

Power of Seed – Photo from mrattitudespeaks.com

One day, my father took my brothers and me out to our apple orchard. He picked an apple and carefully cut into it, all the way to the core. He then gently lifted one of the seeds from the center and held it up for us to see. He proceeded to tell us about how one little seed grew into the apple tree; how the potential of this seed and all the others in this one apple, could also grow into apple trees. And I can still hear what he said as he wrapped up his brief life teaching: “Boys, never, ever underestimate the power of the seed!”

And so it is with seeds of ideas, seeds of encouragement, seeds of kindness–just a few of my favorite seeds which I love to plant wherever I go. When we plant these tiny seeds into the lives of others, we will surely reap some big fruit, for as my father taught me long ago, you really can never, ever underestimate the power of the seed!

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